This book is by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

IT ROCKS!!! I can not recommend it highly enough. If you have kids, no matter what age, you *must* read this at least once! It has concrete examples of how to handle situations with your kids, without blame or punishment, and while keeping your kids' respect and sense of worth intact.

I am so grateful I found this now. I think I mentioned we've been having some trouble with Rhiannon's behavior lately (all in time for my mother to witness), and while we've vowed never to spank, we do use time-outs. It doesn't seem to be helping, and this doesn't seem like one of her "phases", where she tests the limits for a while and then reverts back to our little sweetheart. For one thing, it's been going on since Christmas, while her other testing phases generally only lasted a week or two. So I knew it was time to try something different, and I'm so excited I found this book! I started using some of the techniques over the last couple of days, and lo and behold, this WORKS!!

Today was great, too. She woke up in a bear of a mood (probably because she woke up at 6:30, which is way too early - although she's been on a 6am streak lately too, but I digress). All day there were ample opportunities to try my "new skills" - whining, fussing, clinging, and one beast of a tantrum. I did not lose my patience once, I did not yell a single time, she did not get a single minute of "Rhia time", and each and every time the new methods worked! I am so pumped. I feel like Super Mom instead of Frazzled and Frustrated Screaming Mom. Yay!!

Get the book!!!